June 29, 2012

You Can Be First Class.

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So a few days ago I found out that someone had been saying mean things about me. I have no idea what was said. I'm not really worried about it anymore but it made me upset at first. I have never even met the person, so how can they have mean things to say about me? I was angry and a little hurt. I always have a hard time when I hear things like this. But. I got thinking about it. And I thought to myself, "Breanne, you've also said mean things about this person you've never met." And I have. It's a really weird situation. The blogging world really is so weird. But I got what I deserved, didn't I? I can't go around saying mean things and not expect to have mean things said about me.

I've tried really hard not to gossip or speak ill of anyone. But let's be honest, I'm a girl. It's nearly impossible in girl world to only say nice things. Because girls are mean. Am I right? I know I am. Girls are mean. We just are. Most of the time (unless you're just an awful person) we are mean because we are insecure. And we say mean things about other girls because we feel threatened or jealous. My mom used to tell me, "The only reason someone is mean to you is because they are jealous." I never believed her. Until now. Because I realize that's the only time I say mean things. When I'm jealous. When I'm jealous of a girl's personality, beauty, humor, body, clothes, etc.

Jealousy is not my friend. Jealousy is not anyone's friend. It brings out the worst in all of us. And we all want to be our best selves, right? So let's get rid of this jealousy of others. Comparison is the thief of joy. Truer words were never said. We are all beautiful. And God loves us all with a perfect love. Aren't we commanded to love one another as He loves us? Here's to trying.

"You can be excellent in every way. You can be first class. There is no need for you to be a scrub. Respect yourself. Do not feel sorry for yourself. Do not dwell on unkind things others may say about you. Polish and refine whatever talents the Lord has given you. Go forward in life with a twinkle in your eyes and a smile on your face, but with great and strong purpose in your heart. Love life and look for its opportunities." -Gordon B. Hinckley


  1. True story. Girls really can be so mean, I had to stop myself the other day from complaining about a girl saying mean things behind my back - because as soon as I started to say something I realized I'd said some pretty negative things about her too. What a negative cycle.

    Love that Gordon Hinckley quote though, definitely something to aspire to.

  2. well said. :)

    I looove the quote. It is so true.

  3. i love this post. keep your head up girlie and kill them with kindness. <3

  4. Amazing attitude! Love this!


  5. You fabulous little writer, you. That is actually one of my favorite quotes...ever. You are BEAUTIFUL and don't have a reason to be jealous in my oh-pinion. But you also have a fabulous little attitude.

    ♥ xoxo.
    we & serendipity

  6. It's really hard to keep mean thoughts to oneself. Thanks for sharing this....we all struggle with back-biting....it's a perpetual, conscious effort to try hard not to judge. Take care!!!!

    The Mrs. and The Momma

  7. Thanks for the reminder that the girly meanness comes from an insecure place. I know I try my hardest to avoid it, but there is something about too many girls all together that just sort of breeds it.
    Comparison definitely is the thief of joy, I'm going to remember that one next time I'm about to complain about some girl I hardly know. X

  8. Anger is cruel and fury overwhelming, but who can stand before jealousy? (Proverbs) Its crazy to me, like you say, how inborn this is in us girls. And how incredibly hurtful it is. Thanks for bringing it up :)

  9. What a great quote. It's so easy to get upset about other people talking about us without acknowledging that we've been guilty of the same, so I think it's big of you to admit that. It's something we all deal with from time to time and hopefully recognizing it can help to end the cycle, or at least slow it down. Anyway, I just came across your blog and I think it's great, hope you don't mind if I follow!

  10. Such a good reflection! Thank you for sharing this. I know I can be judgmental. My husband and I ONLY ever say things to each other, but even so, it's something about me that I'd like to change.

  11. Great perspective. You cannot control what others do and say. So do you, and be happy doing that :) Stay classy and you'll come out ahead!